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Emotionally abused children

Today something happened that made me kind of furious, and I thought when something arouses your anger, there's no use denying it, complaining about it or cussing out whoever started it. What the heck! Don't let your fury go to waste, just seize the moment and write about it, maybe it would ring a bell somewhere.

 

So, everybody talks about different kinds of abuse against children. Physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, etc. Now physical and sexual abuse are kind of more definable, but when it comes to emotional abuse, it's the more tricky one. For kicks off, let's state the fact that emotional abuse underlies every kind of abuse you can think of, but this is not the tricky one, because here it can be spotted, you know something is wrong with the child and it need to be fixed.
 
Photo: A sad child

 

The emotional abuse I'm talking about is that we, adults, exercise on daily basis against children. I'm not saying it's more dangerous that the former kind, but what might make its consequences graver, is that it might go unnoticed, and it can build up silently, and before you know it, it turns to something really ugly.

 

 
 
As adults, sometimes we forget what it feels like to be a kid. Worse yet, somewhere in the back of our minds, we think that we have the right to take it out on them whenever we feel like it. Be it anger, frustration, worry, you name it. Sometimes we even recruit them in our battles against other adults. They become a scapegoat for something they have nothing, absolutely nothing to do with. Why? Because we can, and they have to be "good" kids and obey.
 

Please, those who have kids, the next time you have a fight with your neighbor, you don't have to prevent your son to talk to their children. And when you fight with your spouse, you don't have to ask your child to take sides! If you are a teacher and have woken up on the wrong side of the bed one morning, try to leave your screwed up mood at home, and if you couldn't, just skip school that day. Newsflash: Those creatures you see as helpless brats good for nothing but playing and bugging the crap out of you are real people, and one day they will be full grown ups, even better than you and me. You don't wanna be responsible for destroying that, you just don't…

 

Leave children out of it, just leave them alone!

 



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kinzi
June, 13, 2007 4:04 PM
Ola, excellent!! Sadly, very true. It is a generational problem, for those parents only knew that kind of behaviour themselves. It will take a new generation to break the cycle.
vagueraz1 from Jordan
June, 13, 2007 6:20 PM
True ,, good post to discuss :)
we all thought that kids have not emotions .. feelings ... but actualy they live each words they listen ,try to explain it !!!
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vagueraz1 from Jordan
June, 13, 2007 6:20 PM
True ,, good post to discuss :)
we all thought that kids have not emotions .. feelings ... but actualy they live each words they listen ,try to explain it !!!
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aladinromancy from Egypt
June, 15, 2007 2:57 AM
True ,, good post to discuss :)
we all thought that kids have not emotions .. feelings ... but actualy they live each words they listen ,try to explain it !!!
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oeliwat from Jordan
June, 15, 2007 12:43 PM
Thanks for your comments everyone :)
As you said it's a clash f genertions and an inability to understand. But it's also a desire to control and impose authority over others, and who's easier to ul than one's children, which creates a gap between parents and kids, because parents resort to external powers to influence their kids (authority) instead of mutual understanding
z3tr from Canada
June, 17, 2007 8:43 AM
oh grown ups, and the damage they can cause !