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The mentally prepared argument is usually used as an excuse to refuse/reject someone. But some people use it as a generic rule. Unless the guy is brad pit and he's paying her 2 billion dollars for maher and getting her a diamond the size of New Jersy! Then she becomes "somehow" mentally ready .. she just needs an incentive

Now, who wouldn't want to get married?

that is a funny question.. I agree! not only funny but STUPID too..

Qwaider: that's a gross generalization! Not everyone need to have excuses, take me for example, I don't need excuses, in fact my father says he supports my decisions whatever they were and my mother understands me perfectly that she turns down people without even bothering me with that. So, yes, there is such a thing as being mentally preppared.

As for the question, "who wouldn't want to get married?" I'm gonna say that sometimes some people are jsut better off not gettign married. Yes. Maybe that's why some people spend their life alone. There must be a wisdom in that. Maybe some peopel just can't take that responsibilty or they just are to difficult to live with.

I understand you perfectly. I don't know what's the point of asking such ridiculous questions in the first place, even if it was like you said, that you decide that you are up for it and all, it's no grocery shopping! so why ask?! and yes sometimes a girl does not want to get married right now, and it's perfectly normal. Even after you meet someone who makes you want to tie the knot, you have to make sure that you're actually prepared for it. Some people don't understand that it's not enough to love someone, you have to be ready and willing to share your life with that someone, LIVE with him/her and endure what may come your way (ie sickness, distance, financial troubles, family troubles, boredom...etc)

So Ola, don't you wanna get married?



ma todrobeni I was just kidding :D

People will never stop poking their noses in other people's businesses

most arabs, or at least jordanians, do go about it the other way around: they decide they are ready (be it mentally, financially or just succumbing to pressure) and then go out in search of a suitable mate. the difference seems to be that women are more deluded than males as the former go in search of love, which is kind of strange because it assumes that love is something that was meant to be hunted for and found intentionally, instead of just happening upon it as is the natural course of the universe. hence in that search they tend to "fall in love" repeatedly. men are more binary in this regard; more black and white. the decision is made and they tend to go with whoever first comes their way.

that being said, the concept of "finding someone who makes you want to tie the knot" is not rare but its not common, simply because we exist in an environment where culturally and religiously, dating is prohibited.

its pretty much a free for all

Nas: I didn't say anything about dating. See? Another misconception: ot's either dating or traditional marriage... There's always a third option. It may be not so common but it's possible, everything is possible. It's just that not everyone is willing to take their chances... Which is perfectly understandable

ola: technically dating is considered the middle ground, at least in amman. its not on the far left.

but what in your opinion, is the middle ground (that does not involve parents being around yet remains culturally and socially conservative and/or islamic)?

Well, let's say 2 people could meet in any random place or situation, like at work, family circle, common friends, etc. Then they might like each other but they don't actually have to date... They might see each other daily for some purpose like working together or something but they don't have to "be together" or be in an official relationship...

I'm not sure if I'm making my point clearly enough... Anyway maybe I'm unrealistic, I guess if people listened to me no one will ever get married, that's why I always say that it's a personal matter after all and I'm not saying that this or that is wrong. It's just a personal preference

"I guess if people listened to me no one will ever get married"

lol thats true

your middle ground is valid nevertheless. but that being said, the overwhelming majority remain on either the fall right or the far left.

You know Ola I agree with you, you need to be prepared for the idea of sharing your life with another person. but you can never be ready for ever scenario that may come in the road. I think that as long as a girl is mature enough, and knows that getting married is not like a Cinderella story, and as long as she thinks she is ready for the big decision she would be able to choose right and be successful in her choice

with reference to your question: Don't you wanna get married?
my answer is: NO.
tell whoever asks you it's non of your business, and no need for mentally prepared excuse!!

Rasha: True, maturity is a key element here...

Jerusalem: Sure, it's nobodies business, but when I talk about mental preparation I'm not giving excuses. In fact, I like arguments and discussions, especially with people of opposing opinions... That's why I don't cut it short

well yeah if you dnt know the guy then yeah that is kind of weird. I mean I am not for arranged marriages. seriously I hate it when someone is like 15 years old and they are married

"There's no clerkship in Islam" said once the Prophet(PBUH)when he met a follower who feels so strong as to refuse marriage.
Whoever dislikes to get married must be a lunatic person.Marriage is sweeter than honey! I've tasted it years ago, for shure.

i think not all woman want brad pit
or a rich man beause i think all is based on love remember if you dont love brad pit and you love him for his money its not love and after some years you will divorce you cant love someoe forever for his or her wealth my fiend here in this web site has 6 childrens i'm sure he is very happy never mond if she is cute rich the important is two persons wants a family and they respect family values
yes i wanna be married start to think when you will be old without childrens without a family you will be alone in the world for what for career for money you will give a look behind you and you will see i dint build nothing and now its too late to build something parents are not perpetual you will find yourself alone you dint risk nothink this is for me to be immature never mind your ages ages are only numbers on the identity card i know woman and man were they are 40 years old and they have the mind of a baby i know girls of 22 years old which they have mature mind the important is your family and your parents which educated you
start to think about love stop to think about matherial things and only youself remember ages passes very fast you dont have a time machine ciao ciao choose with your heart not with a bank account