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Hardly Embarrassing

So the other day I went out with some friends from work, it was one hilarious evening with some maliciously good food, junk food that is, nothing fancy. However, one of them wasn’t that much into this kind of food so she picked up some pastry on her way. By the time we all arrived, her food was already cold. So, she suggested that the only guy who was with us would go and ask someone is one of the restaurants to heat it up for her. Everyone was like: Give me a break! Do you want us to make a fool out of ourselves? So, after some failed attempts she gave up and grabbed a piece of her cold pastry.

 

Mean while, I was staring at her and at her cold food. In a matter of seconds, I held some hectic mental negotiations, some sort of an inner conflict. What would happen if I tried to get her food heated up for her? It seems embarrassing, but is it really? Then, as I figured out later, my subconscious mind came into play, and what I learned from Stephen Covey’s book about being principle-centered, and how people-centered individuals get embarrassed easily. Am I people-centered?  I really hate to think so! So, I had to prove it to myself. 

 

The next thing I knew, I grabbed her plate and got up from the table. “What the heck! Give me this.” Everyone looked at me with a puzzled look as I made my way between tables holding a plate of pastry. I went to one of the restaurants and explained the situation to the guys working there (Although I think I shouldn’t have, I need more training) And as I expected, they were very nice and even heated up in the oven instead of the microwave so it stays juicy.

 

I’m not gonna lie and say I did this because I’m too good and perfect to let my friend have her food cold. In fact, I’m gonna admit that my objective was purely ego-centric. I was challenging myself. Would I be principle-centered enough as to care less for supposedly embarrassing myself?

 

So, I was proud of myself, and Tubby was proud of me too! He kept pushing me until I did it. I’m loving Tubby these days, he’s making me feel very good about myself. Hope his schizophrenia won’t catch up with him for some while.

 

You may laugh if you want, but I really wish I can send this to Stephen Covey to thank him for the positive continuous effect his book is having on me. Eh, maybe someday…



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Iman from United States
October, 30, 2007 10:09 PM
Hey, that's pretty neat actually :D

On somewhat of a related issue, my friends are always embarrassed whenever we go out to restaurants - especially fast food joints... I always ask what type of oil they use to fry their food...(I wouldn't want to eat anything fried in lard, you know!) the majority of those working at such restaurants hardly speak English...so I always end up in the kitchen to see the type of oil they use...
Qwaider قويدر from United States
October, 30, 2007 11:37 PM
That's the spirit Ola,
Ma 3aib ella el 3aib. And there's really nothing to be ashamed of if one is really not harming other people in the course of doing something

You might have started this as a challenge to your own self. But this doesn't mean that you will not start applying this to other aspects of life.
In fact, I've noticed that my American-female-coworkers are able to get exactly what they want by asking for it and feeling embarrassed or ashamed. Something I've tried to learn myself, I find this assertiveness to be a trait of effective successful people.
Maioush from United States
October, 31, 2007 8:35 AM
Bravo 3aleaki Ola... there is nothing to be embarrassed about, as long as you r not doing anything wrong, ana heak, as long as i'm not crossing the line, then 3adi mo 3eab :D
Sari Al Hiari from Qatar
October, 31, 2007 10:07 AM
Stephen Covey had nothing to do with it. You would've eventually done this anyways.

You will be surprised how far people will go to help, but only if you are adamant about smiling and were willing to accept a few failures.
Qabbaniَ
October, 31, 2007 10:57 AM
that's nice

you know in Jordan u made nice and cuz ur a girl , but really if a guy went to a restaurant ask , they will look at him and say WHAT DO U WANT ??

when ever we be a restaurant they want something they say Mwaf2 we want , or this not good , or look how it is , Man talk to him ..etc, and i do take care hehehe as they say " Ma Basta7i when its related to FOOD 5sosan" ,even some restaurants become know me so far , when ever i go in and order they keep ask me , is every thing ok , need someing else, ..etc ,

o i believe all people ready to help you if u REALLY know HOW TO ask them ..
Qabbaniَ
October, 31, 2007 10:57 AM
that's nice

you know in Jordan u made nice and cuz ur a girl , but really if a guy went to a restaurant ask , they will look at him and say WHAT DO U WANT ??

when ever we be a restaurant they want something they say Mwaf2 we want , or this not good , or look how it is , Man talk to him ..etc, and i do take care hehehe as they say " Ma Basta7i when its related to FOOD 5sosan" ,even some restaurants become know me so far , when ever i go in and order they keep ask me , is every thing ok a, need someing else, ..etc ,

o i believe all people ready to help you if u REALLY know HOW TO ask them ..
ola from Jordan
October, 31, 2007 4:29 PM
Thanks all for the... solidarity :D

You know I think the concept of 3aib (in the sense of embarrassing) stems within ourselves, so when I want to do something I feel embaraassing I put myself in the other person's shoes, and here you go!
halataha
November, 27, 2007 4:10 PM
Good for you ya binit

I love yout Tubby