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On judging people

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

In my first year at college, there was that girl who had that boyfriend and they were kind of showing affection publicly to such an excessive extent, in other words: makhdeen ra7et.hom... Once a friend of mine asked me soemthing about that girl, saying that her behaviour is so unacceptable, I said that I don't know the girl and didn't comment much on the behaviour itself...

Later on,in my fourth year, I became friends with that girl and got to know her better... I discovered that she's a very nice well-mannered girl, she's even religious though it doesn't show fromm the way she dresses... Not to mention that she had already broken up with that boyfriend and she no longer hanged around with him.

Now, my point is: Who are we to judge? As for me I learned not to talk about people, even when seeing them doing something wrong with my own eyes, for two simple reasons: 1) this is useless gossip and 2) people do chage... Actually those people might be better than ourselves and we don't know it. We also may change, we could become so bad ourselves... and no matter how bad we may become we can't bear it when someone judges us...

Moreover, I think we can do many other useful things with our time than spending it talking about people, actually it seems to me that those who spend time talking about other people are those who don't have many other things to talk about...

Just a piece of advice: Put yourself in the other person's shoes, and remember than you can not judge a book by its cover!

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On October, 24, 2006 1:44 AM , Moey
from Jordan said:

thanks for that ola, you should see that stupid ignorant on my blog

On October, 24, 2006 4:47 AM , Hala
from United States said:

I hate judging people because I know I would be furious if I were in their place, give respect to receive it.

On October, 24, 2006 9:42 AM , Ola
from Jordan said:

Moey: You're welcome :) And welcome to the zone

Hala: My point exactly! btw, I just found out that you are the same as Spoiled from Mahjoob :D

On October, 24, 2006 10:19 AM , Fadi K
from Jordan said:

Kol 3am wa anty bekheir Ola :)

On October, 24, 2006 1:30 PM , Ahmed
from United Kingdom said:

Salams
Thanks for the comment on my blog.
You've hit the nail on the head here, we should never judge or look down on the person we see doing wrong. Instead, maybe perhaps if we made a quick dua for them and for ourselves to be saved from that, it would be so much more useful.

Can I request you to link up http://www.haqislam.org, its a new site I'm party to building.
jazakallah

On October, 25, 2006 6:39 AM , thecaller
from Egypt said:

So true ya OLA..
check my related post..
kol 3eed wenty bkhair

On October, 25, 2006 12:04 PM , Nana
from Lebanon said:

exactly! I agree that people do change and we're not supposed to judge the book from it's cover.We learn from our faults.
however, some people are hopless cases, they NEVER change.
besides, I still believe that semahom fi wojohehem, with exceptions of course.
In all cases, kol wa7ad 7or be 7aloh w bi 7ayatoh, who are we to judge them and waste our time gossiping.

hope ur having a happy eid Ola.

On October, 25, 2006 5:48 PM , Eno..
from Egypt said:

i think u r totally right about this post Ola..
3eed sa3eed insha2allah

On October, 25, 2006 9:47 PM , Ola
from Jordan said:

Happy Eid everyone :)

On October, 26, 2006 2:29 AM , 7ala said:

Ola thank you , thank you , thank you for such a great post! I loved it becoz i have always wanted to say it.

You have said it in a great , simple , and smart way!

Thank you again.
7abbaitek ya biny :)

On October, 26, 2006 2:30 AM , 7ala said:

w sa7i7 .. kol sane w inte salme 7abibty:)

On October, 26, 2006 4:37 PM , tcdrtw
from United States said:

I also don't think it's ok to judge in most situations, as we generally only are seeing a small part of the story.

I do think we should judge certain actions because I believe truth isn't relative. We should help the person who is doing wrong.

Judging or condemning a person's soul is a different matter. That is for God to do.

On October, 26, 2006 6:46 PM , Ola
from Jordan said:

7ala: Thanks dear! kol3am w inti b5air :-)

tcdrtw: yes, helping is different from judging, and I seriuosly doubtthat gosspping is much of a help :D

On October, 27, 2006 11:06 PM , Abed Hamdan
from Jordan said:

el moshkele at university u have nothing to do buut gossip! allah yehdeena !

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